I attribute my success with relationships, business growth, and personal growth to eight habits of personal development that are my keys to remain happy and navigate the apparent negativity and chaos that comes to each and every one of us every day of our lives.
I have been asked when this started with me, and in retrospect I believe it is because of great parenting that I began learning how to choose happiness. My mother (and her mother also) had every reason to be unhappy and choose to be miserable, but both of them were shining examples of happiness in spite of all the great obstacles they faced in their lives.
In my semi-retirement – (which only means I don’t have to work if I choose not to work and still maintain an abundant lifestyle) – I have distilled the eight habits or keys to my living happy and want to share them with you here. I can tell you that as simple as these habits are, they are not always easy to repeat each day. However, I can promise you that if you strive to do all of them EVERY DAY of your life – you will feel the power of your choice to live happy and will be successful at everything you pursue.
For me, it is important to do six of these habits first thing in the morning BEFORE my other activities of the day begin. The seventh and eighth habits are something I do many times throughout each day.
1. Keep a gratitude journal. I write at least three things for which I am grateful. If this is the only habit you develop it will be life-changing on its own. Happiness is a choice and being grateful for EVERYTHING that comes to us in our life every moment of every day is the first and most important habit.
2. Read my WHY. Determine your “why” (the vision that drives you) – and align every day toward making it a reality. For every person this will be uniquely your reason for living, working and playing. From early childhood we all have dreams of becoming a person of relevance to the world starting with family and friends. If you have lost those dreams take time to find and renew them. My dreams today are to be around my kids and my grand kids as they grow up and to share anything I can to help others reach their dreams.
At this point in my life my own Why is:
|To find and mentor at least 100 people who desire to make a significant difference in this world by living happy and learning the skills to make that a permanent reality in their lives – Then for each of them to mentor 100 to do the same, who will mentor 100 each and replicate this through 6+ generations. I strongly believe when each of us takes full responsibility for the world we create around ourselves every moment of every day – there will be no more fear. In the absence of fear there is only unconditional love – This will end all wars and bring peace, health and prosperity to every person on this planet.|
3. Read my Vision Statement. A “Vision Statement” describes HOW you are going to accomplish your “Why”. It includes language that helps us stay focused each day on high payoff activities that bring success to reaching our Why. My Vision Statement is:
|We are living near our family in our dream home where we can host family and friends on a regular basis. We spend 4 weeks per year on vacation with family to some of the most exotic and fun places on earth.
I am traveling six months out of the year helping others learn what I did to bring success into my life and live my dreams. I am helping them become financially free and enjoy the time freedom to live their dream lifestyle.
I continue to mentor others to be successful and share the principles of happiness that bring success to the world in books I have written and presentations I am making.
We are philanthropists contributing to educate adults about mindfulness and self healing. We are also contributing to the education of children ages 5 – 18 to learn “abundance consciousness”.
We are healthy and examples of healthy living!
4. Read my Affirmations. These statements usually begin with “I AM”. Whether you have realized them or aspire to realize them your mind cannot tell the difference between our perceived reality or the reality we see in our mind “as if” it has already happened. This is how we create the best world around ourselves. These are my current affirmations:
|I enjoy every moment
I am a servant leader
I am unconditional love
I am Abundance
I am loved
I am happy
I am optimistic
I am confident
I am enthusiastic
I am patient
I am kind
I am prosperous
I am generous
I am successful
I am wealthy in family, friends and money
I am inspired
I am an inspiration to others
I am healthy and well in spirit, mind, and body
I am open and receptive to the infinite abundance of the universe
I am able to help others experience the infinite abundance of the universe
I have fun every day
I always have enough
I focus on what is important for my growth
I attract to myself people who are serious about making themselves better – with a desire to follow a proven system to reach their dreams
5. Read 10 pages (or listen to 15 minutes) of a personal development book. Keep learning and become a voracious reader to learn as much as you can toward your Why and Vision Statements. These books include “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill, “Divine Love” by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, “A Happy Pocket Full of Money” by David Gikandi, and MANY others. You can find some of my favorite reads on this site by selecting “Favorite Reads” from the BLOG categories.
6. Physical exercise for at least 20 minutes each day. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you MOVE. Walking, running, jogging, lifting weights, yard work, shopping, etc. As long as you can get your heart rate above 100 for 20 minutes each day you will find it easier to keep moving through life.
7. Smile when you talk! I recently learned this one from Andy Andrews at a convention where he was speaking and added it to the other seven habits. When I heard him say it I smiled because it’s one my mother taught me as a young boy and it stuck with me. I’ve been doing this most of my life.
8. Meditation. This is the one habit I practice throughout each day. It is a simple thing but not easy to make it become a habit. Click this link to learn more.
These habits are a subset of my 20 Habits of Highly Successful People you can read by clicking this link.